We put a call out for more gay/straight advice questions. An anonymous reader posted; here's an excerpt from his question and our thoughts.
There's this guy in my acting class . . . and a few days ago we had this flurry of text messages back and forth. Now, I know it's a text, and a text isn't a substitute for actually speaking to someone, but I just don't know if he was serious or if he was joking. Are there any signs I can watch for, in class, that he might be serious about maybe trying to be with me? I am incredibly confused.
Anonymous, your post doesn't give us quite enough information to go on. I feel like you've left out all the good parts. Why did text you and what did the texts say? In what context did you give him your number? I assume because you were working on an acting assignment together. Serious or joking about what? But, here's a few general thoughts:
First off, guys and their affections can still be confusing, even at your (college) age. So, don't get discouraged by feeling confused. Second, from the limited info I've got, objectively I would say that a lot of texting probably means that he wants something from you. The questions is what does he want, and does he even know what he wants. If the texts were all logistical --when to meet and where --then who knows.
Signs to watch for to see if he's interested? I'd look for whether he makes good eye/face contact when he talks with you, does he hang out for a few minutes after your class to touch base with you, does he generally seem happy to talk with you. Basically, does he act like he finds you interesting and that he looks forward to seeing you.
But, my advice is to get beyond reading tea leaves and get some real information. Make some light, friendly moves and see how he reacts. Suggest something --doesn't need to be intense--and see how he reacts. Does he want to meet at the cafeteria and get something to eat? Just hang out at the library and study?
Again, we think we need more info. Keep in touch.